How to Overcome Self-Doubt

Caitlin Houston
3 min readJul 10

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One of my biggest struggles in life is self-doubt. Within the last year, I’ve become aware of how often I allow negative thoughts to consume me as a Mom and a blogger. Not only am I my own worst critic, but also too sensitive to comparison. I don’t have all the answers, but I want to share the ways I am working to overcome self-doubt.

**Post originally written in 2019 — re-published in 2023**

How to Overcome Self-Doubt

Self-Doubt as a Mom

Every stage of childhood has its challenges and on the worst days, I doubt myself as a Mom. Ailey has a setback in potty training? I should pay more attention to her. Annabelle is mean to a new friend. Did I show her how to behave that way? My babies never sleep at night. I should have never co-slept. The second-guessing and “What if…” questions are in overdrive whenever something doesn’t go right.

To overcome self-doubt as a Mom, I repeat the following positive statements. You are doing the best you can. The perfect Mom does not exist. If your daughters are happy, healthy, and thriving then you are WINNING.

Read more: “Why do people think it’s okay to Mom Shame?”

Self-Doubt as a Blogger

With constantly changing algorithms and a crowded blog society, it’s hard to stand out in 2019. My self-doubt as a blogger stems from the pressure to rank oneself based on “likes” and “followers” instead of engagement and content quality. The best way to extinguish insecurities is to quit playing the comparison game with other bloggers.

“Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” William Shakespeare

Take some time away from looking at others on social media. How do you know you’re addicted to Instagram?Delete the app and see how you feel — or restrict the time you spend online. It is incredible what happens if you only sign on to post your own content and leave.

Silence Negative Talk

How do you find contentment in life when you struggle with self-doubt? Celebrate joy often and never let a win, big or small, go unnoticed. I’m working to silence this little voice in my head who whispers, ‘You’re not good enough.” I’m not sure where it came from, but the negativity can be deafening. It isn’t good to ignore your insecurities, but don’t let them consume you.

One of the ways I’m trying to silence negative talk is by not saying anything to myself that I wouldn’t say to my best friend. Kind, gentle, encouraging words are so much kinder than criticism. I never believed in positive affirmations until I started secretly whispering them to myself.

I am enough, worthy of my dreams, and strong and confident.

More Tips for Overcoming Self-Doubt

  1. Identify and ease your doubts by saying, “I can’t do X, but I can do Y.”
  2. Stop listening (or ignore) the people who are trying to bring you down.
  3. Celebrate your successes (and recall them when the negative starts to creep in).
  4. Talk to someone about your feelings — sometimes it helps to put it all out there and realize how untrue it all can be.

Embrace your self-doubt and reclaim the power it has over you.

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Caitlin Houston

Caitlin Houston is a Mom of three and creator of Connecticut based life + style site Caitlin Houston Blog.